10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

Couldn’t agree with Kate Bailey more. Times may have changed but
that doesn’t mean manners and etiquette have to. Chivalry only dies if we let it.

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1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.

I think we’ve all had it with the incredibly unromantic “here” text, and meeting up always seems to be more casual and platonic than the alternative. Of course, meeting someone from online or any circumstance like that would probably be the exception to this rule, but generally: the 30 seconds it takes to get out of a car or cab and knock on the door makes a huge difference.

2. Trying to dress really nicely for a date.

“Nicely” means different things for different people, so I think it’s just a matter of putting effort into how you put yourself together to go out with someone. It’s not about wearing suits and petticoats again, but just realizing that, whether or not we like to accept it, appearance does count for something, and we should do our best to make sure that…

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“The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things in life like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people in life recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation. For me, I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And lessen the suffering of others. You’d be surprised how far that gets you.”

Mother’s Day 2014

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(Above) Sandi Smidt-World’s Best Mother (in my opinion) featured in the middle

As most of you know, Sunday is Mother’s day.   It’s hard sometimes, even for someone who thinks they are good with words to be able to articulate strong feelings, especially those of love.  Nothing I could think of seemed to truly express my love or thankfulness for my mother enough. That is why sometimes you have to search out other peoples’ words and pray that the intended person doesn’t disapprove of the lack of orginality.  In that spirit and in a pitiful attempt to show the one woman who I care for most in the world- who has always been there for me, I have compiled a few quotes to help express how important she is and how much she means to me.

But this isn’t just about my mother, this is about all the women out there who are both blessed and cursed, at times, with the title of “mother.”  This if for those who stay up late reading their kids bedtime stories, who pretend not to notice when you hide your peas or carrots in your napkin, who drive the van to all the away soccer games and sit in the freezing cold even though you barely play, who showed you how to tie your shoes, who put up with you when you’re sick and helpless, who made sure you wrote every single graduation thank-you note, who taught you pretty much everything you know about life, who put your happinesss and well being before hers every single day, and who no matter how ridiculous the dreams you’re chasing seem she always finds a way to support them-even if that means constantly leaving the country and not being able to talk as much as you’d both like.

10 Quotes for Mother on Mother’s Day:

1. “A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” ―Washington Irving

2.  “Kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run.” —Barbara Kingsolver

3. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.” —Gail Tsukiyama

4.  “My mother is my root, my foundation. She planted the seed that I base my life on, and that is the belief that the ability to achieve starts in your mind.” —Michael Jordan

5. No one in the world can take the place of your mother. Right or wrong, from her viewpoint you are always right. She may scold you for little things, but never for the big ones.  – Harry Truman

A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories.

Honore de Balzac

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A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories.

Honore de Balzac

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/h/honoredeba390865.html#Ru2Gr9GUP4yX2qQr.99

A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories.

Honore de Balzac

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/h/honoredeba390865.html#Ru2Gr9GUP4yX2qQr.99

6. A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest.  – Irish Proverb

7.  “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” – Tenneva Jordan

8. “A mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired. It need not be deserved. –Victor Hugo

Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.
– Erich Fromm
Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Holidays/Mothers-Day/Inspirational-Quotes-About-Mothers.aspx?p=8#LjOC5q7SuFVp8DFW.99
Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.
– Erich Fromm
Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Holidays/Mothers-Day/Inspirational-Quotes-About-Mothers.aspx?p=8#LjOC5q7SuFVp8DFW.99
Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.
– Erich Fromm
Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Holidays/Mothers-Day/Inspirational-Quotes-About-Mothers.aspx?p=8#LjOC5q7SuFVp8DFW.99

9. “You are a doctor, a teacher a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwomen. Wear your cape proudly.” -Mandy Hale

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.
– Tenneva Jordan
Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Holidays/Mothers-Day/Inspirational-Quotes-About-Mothers.aspx?p=10#EApc48z1wwlK8zzH.99

10. “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my Angel mother. Abe Lincoln

Happy Mother’s Day to all!

Advice to College Freshman

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A few weeks ago I received an e-mail from an old college friend named Robert explaining how he was working on a book of sorts for incoming college freshman.  The purpose of the book was to give advice to incoming college students to help them avoid the typical errors that most kids make their first year of college.  He also explained that he had started a blog that he was using to promote the book.  Out of no where he asked me if I’d write an advice post that he could put up and use for his website.  (link to his blog here: http://freshmansguidetocollegeacademics.com/successstories/ )

The subject of the post was supposed to be “how you were successful academically in college.”  I’ve never been good with predetermined subject matter.  I instead took a bit of a different angle.  Instead I wrote more of a “what I wish someone had told me before I got to college” post.  I won’t lie, lately I’d been feeling semi hesitant about moving to Europe.  I’ll admit I was a bit nervous.  But life works in weird ways, writing this post helped to remind me why I was doing it.  It reminded me that you can’t be scared to live your life and take chances.  I’ve posted my advice below.  Hope you enjoy and realize it’s not just advice for freshman:

Creighton University 2012

My advice to college students in their first year? Simple: follow your passion and don’t buy into what society deems obligatory. Push the status quo. Whatever your dream is, go for it and start now. There is no right or wrong way to live life; there is no master blueprint. I know that this may sound obvious and idealistic, but it’s the key to happiness, and happy people tend to be the successful ones.

You don’t always get it right the first time.

I’d be a hypocrite if I told you that I followed this advice when I first got to college—far from it, in fact. For the longest time I aspired to go to law school in order to fulfill the “American Dream.” I wanted to get a high-paying prestigious job, which would allow me to buy a big house, a nice car, provide for my family, and give my children advantages that I never had growing up. As far back as I can remember people always told me that I’d be a great lawyer, and when you’re told something often enough it tends to leave an impression. I inadvertently got to the point where I had accepted the fact I was going to be a lawyer. I stopped dreaming. I stopped exploring. I was on autopilot. Looking back now, being a lawyer was never something I really wanted to do. It was something others expected of me, and I only ever viewed it as a means to the potential American dream I thought I wanted. Long story short: I applied to law school, got in, and then during my senior year of college decided to not go.

Keep checking in with yourself.

There I was, halfway through my senior year of college and I had no idea what I wanted to do. I felt like I had wasted four years and thousands of dollars. Luckily, I took an internship before the start of my senior year, and as a philosophy major working at a financial advising company it really helped to diversify my resume. With my mind open to other possibilities, I graduated and accepted a job at a commodities trading company in Omaha… working 45-hour weeks and hating my life. The job didn’t fit my personality. I was stuck in a desk all day, staring at a computer screen, analyzing and rearranging numbers, barely interacting with anyone else. No matter how many times I heard, “it’s your first job, it’s supposed to be terrible,” months went by and it still didn’t feel right.

Don’t be afraid of change.

One day I took a step back and asked myself what I really wanted out of life. I decided I wanted to travel, work/help people, and be challenged intellectually on a daily basis—so I made what turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life. I quit my job and started working on a cruise ship. I spent six months over the past year sailing around Australia, meeting some of the most incredible people from all around the world, and racking up more ridiculous stories than I could ever have hoped for at this point in my life… all because I decided to start following my passion. A week from now I embark on my next adventure: Au Pairing for a family in the Czech Republic. I will be working for four months and backpacking Europe for another two (a dream of mine since high school).  For the past year I have been following my dream of traveling the world. It has been more rewarding, both in the moment and in retrospect, than I could have ever hoped for.

Every time I tell someone what I’m doing with my life they stare at me in disbelief and say, “Wow, I wish I could do that.” Well, I’m telling you before you even start your college journey that you can do whatever you want. Will there be obstacles? Yes. Will people try and convince you otherwise? Yes. Will there be uncertainty? Yes. But the things that seem to be the most challenging turn out to be the most rewarding.

I’ve written all of this to get to the following point. Don’t wait like I did to figure out what you are passionate about. Don’t let fear keep you stagnant. Don’t be afraid of what others will think or say to you. Follow your path and do your own thing. My life motto is ‘whatever you are, be a good one.’ There are so many opportunities available to you in college. My advice: try everything. Remember that discovering your passion requires a dedication to unstructured exploration. The sooner you start looking the sooner you’ll find it. Already found what makes you happy? Great! If you haven’t, keep looking. Once you’ve found what you love find a way to turn it into a career. The only way you’ll ever truly be happy is by living out your passion on a daily basis. After all, in matters of life and love it is always better to follow your passion. Who are you to row against the current of your soul?

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“Therefore, dear Sir, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away… and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast…. be happy about your growth, in which of course you can’t take anyone with you, and be gentle with those who stay behind; be confident and calm in front of them and don’t torment them with your doubts and don’t frighten them with your faith or joy, which they wouldn’t be able to comprehend. Seek out some simple and true feeling of what you have in common with them, which doesn’t necessarily have to alter when you yourself change again and again; when you see them, love life in a form that is not your own and be indulgent toward those who are growing old, who are afraid of the aloneness that you trust…. and don’t expect any understanding; but believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet